Gospel Centered Community versus Unhealthy Community

Alex Holroyde October 29, 2019

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This semester on Tuesdays we’re taking a deep dive into Young Life team dynamicsIf you missed the first couple posts, check them out here:

This tenth post in the series was written by Alex Holroyde.

In this post, Alex gives us a picture of what gospel-centered community looks like versus unhealthy community. We often elevate the idea of community, yet it is not as simple as simply desiring it. It takes intentionality. 

You can download the PDF of the document below here. Consider discussing it with your YL team.

The person who loves their dream of community will destroy community,
but the person who loves those around them will create community.

Bonhoeffer, Life Together

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to Ask Yourself

  1. Are you looking for Community to give you what only Jesus can give?
  2. Which one of the 10 do you have the hardest time with?
  3. Who do you need to forgive and who do you need to ask forgiveness from?
  4. Who do you need to include or invite?
  5. What is one Gospel-centered trait that you, your team, family, or friends need to try?  

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1- Love of others

   “But love your enemies,
do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back.”
Luke 6:35

   “By this everyone will
know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” John 13:35

   “So in everything, do
to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and
the Prophets.” Matt 7:12

2- High View of others and No View of self

   “Do nothing out of
selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above
yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the
interests of the others.” Phil 2:3-4

   “Humility is not
thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” C.S. Lewis

   “If my sinfulness
appears to me to be in any way smaller or less detestable in comparison with
the sins of others, I am still not recognizing my sinfulness at all. … How
can I possibly serve another person in sincere humility if I seriously regard
his sinfulness as worse than my own?”
– Dietrich Bonhoeffer

3-Jesus Alone Satisfies

   “Then Jesus declared, “I
am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry, and
whoever believes in me will never be thirsty” -John 6:35

4- Holds Short Accounts

   “If your brother or
sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two
of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.”- Matthew 18:15

“Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies
kisses.”- Proverbs 27:6

Point 5- Forgives and asks
for Forgiveness

if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother
or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the
altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.- Matthew

kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in
Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32

Point 6-Confesses our Sin to another

confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be
healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” -James

may be that Christians, notwithstanding corporate worship, common prayer, and
all their fellowship in service, may still be left to their loneliness. The
final break-through to fellowship does not occur, because, though they have
fellowship with one another as believers and as devout people, they do not have
fellowship as the undevout, as sinners. The pious fellowship permits no one to
be a sinner. So everybody must conceal his sin from himself and from the
fellowship. We dare not be sinners. Many Christians are unthinkably horrified
when a real sinner is suddenly discovered among the righteous. So we remain
alone with our sin, living in lies and hypocrisy. The fact is that we are sinners!

Point 7-Listens with both ears

dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to
listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,” – James 1:19

fear the 
Lord is to hate evil; I hate pride
and arrogance, evil behavior and perverse speech.” – Proverbs 8:13

Point 8-Assumes Best..and when they screw up back to #5

is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not
proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not
easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in
evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Point 9-Inclusive

leaving her water jar, the woman went back to the town and said to the people, “Come,
see a man who told me everything I ever did. Could this be the Messiah?”They
came out of the town and made their way toward him. – John 4:28-30

Point 10- Rejoice with those who Rejoice

   “ Rejoice
with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” – Romans 12:15

Written by Alex Holroyde. 

Alex has served as a Young Life leader and on staff since 2006. His wife, Ali, is the coordinator for YoungLives in the Carolinas Region and they live in Columbia, SC with their 3 daughters.

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