Below are a few different directions you can go as you’re planning your Valentine’s themed club.
- Battle of the Sexes Club
- Ms. Valentine’s Pageant
- Anti-Valentine’s Day Club
- Dating Game Club
- Red Club
- Love Club
Battle of the Sexes
One year we did Battle of the Sexes Club on Valentine’s day and it was a big success. Gals wore pink. Guys wore blue. They entered through different tunnels. We had contests singing love songs the loudest. We did the giant pyramid mixer. We played Battle of the Sexes trivia and a few other fun games you can see here.
Ms. Valentine’s Pageant
This club is very similar to the Mr. Christmas Tree Pageant done with the guys in December. Get ideas here.
Anti-Valentine’s Day Club
I’ve actually never done this club but I’ve heard a few folks say that it’s gone well for them. If you have ideas, send them in here and I’ll add them to this post.
Dating Game Club/The Blind Bachelor
Have “Antonio Amore” host your evening. He enters to the song “That’s Amore” and is dressed in a suit with red hearts pinned all over him, a mullet wig, mustache, top hat, anything over the top. He has a French accent and repeatedly says “I do not push, I do not shove, I am as sweet (sweet is said in a high pitched voice) as a turtle dove, I get my looks from the man above, my name’s Amore, my name means love.”
In the past we’ve borrowed a male and female senior leader from our rival high school and had them serve as our guest ‘bachelor’ and ‘bachelorette’ for the night. The ‘bachelor’ went first and entered blindfolded while the bachelorette was hidden in another room. 4 girls (one from each grade) competed to win the date with the bachelor. The bachelor asked the girls a series of questions like these:
- If you were a candy, what would you be and why?
- Describe your perfect date? What would we do?
- What are you looking for in a future spouse?
- If you were to write me a poem, what would it say?
Ex: “Contestant #1, if you could change anything about the world, what would it be?”
After a series of questions the bachelor makes his decision and writes it (still blindfolded) on a piece of paper placed in a sealed envelope and handed to Antonio Amore. The female contestants all wait in suspense while the Bachelorette enters along with the 4 male contestants, one from each class.
I like to prep the freshmen guy ahead of time with good answers so he’s the hero. It’s funny when the senior girl wins a date with the freshmen guy.
After the bachelorette makes her decision, Antonio announces both winners. The music plays, rose pedals are thrown down, and the blindfolds are removed. The two winning couples are escorted to the door where the limo awaits! (See if you can get an area limo service to donate or give discounted service. Typically a Monday night isn’t too busy for them!)
In the limo, the couples are joined by Antonio and another friend of YL who is the videographer for the evening. The two couples leave club before the talk and head to a local dive like What-A-Burger or Sonic. Have silverware, flowers, placemats, etc… Antonio helps the date along prompting conversation with pre-planned questions and instructions like “feed your date a bite of that milkshake with your left hand.’
Show the video at club the following week!
I recommend using Love Club to address sex & dating. I know its not in our typical YL talk progression, but its something teenagers are dealing with daily and we owe them the truth.
In the past I’ve done a light-hearted talk, explaining the difference between lust and love. It’s important to help our high school friends understand we really desire more than just what our hormones tell us we desire. We really want intimacy: to be completely known and yet completely loved, accepted and unashamed, without fear of rejections.
Gen 1:27, 2:18-25, and 1 Corin. 6:16-19 (from the Message).
Quotes I Love To Use When Speaking About Sex & Dating
-Purity paves the way to intimacy. (Andy Stanley)
-They don’t make condoms for your heart. (Lots of folks)
-You don’t have to shop at Victoria Secret and do poll dances to be a desired woman. (Ken Tankersly)
-I’m no sexpert, but… (Can’t remember who I stole that from.)
-God loves sex, He’s the inventor of sex. Do you think Adam & Eve we’re just walking along and bumped into one another? (Mike Ashburn, maybe only Ash can pull that off.)
If you have any other ideas to add, please comment below, or email me here.