7 Must-Do’s When Interacting With Parents

Drew Hill February 26, 2020

We’re continuing the BWOYL (Best Week of Your Life) series by
looking at the top five excuses kids make for not going to camp. If you missed
the first two, they are linked below. Today we’re looking at how to interact
with parents.

Part 1: My friends aren’t going.

Part 2: I don’t have the money.

Part 3: My parents won’t let me

Part 4: I have schedule conflicts

Part 5: I’m afraid of the unknown

My Parents Won’t Let Me.

When I first started leading Young Life over twenty years ago, leaders
typically had much closer relationships with the parents of their high school friends. In 1996, teenagers didn’t own cell phones, so in order to contact them, a leader had to call the home phone. This often resulted in conversations with parents.

One key in getting your teenage friends to camp is to not only invest in them, but also in a relationship with their parents. Not many parents will quickly shell out hundreds of dollars to ship their kid off to camp with someone they don’t really know. Most parents would love to know you better, even if they have not made any effort to do so. If we want to take their kids to camp, we must step out of our comfort zones and build relationships with moms and dads.

7 Keys To Interacting With Parents

Show Respect

As a general rule, refer to them as Mr. or Mrs. InsertLast-Name. I would always default to this, but exceptions can more easily be made if
you’re married, a parent, or over 25. If they give you permission to call them by their first name, go with that.

Make the Call

Calling communicates that you’re a responsible adult, whereas sending a
text message appears less confident and more adolescent. If you’re not
confident in making those phone calls, ask your Area Director to set you up
with a “practice call” with an adult on the Young Life Committee so
you can rehearse.

Digital Maturity

Parents may call your phone and get your voicemail. Will the greeting
they hear lead them to trust you more or think of you as irresponsible? When they stalk you on social media, what pictures will they see? When a parent snoops in their teenager’s text messages, what will the texts you wrote to their child communicate about you?

Know Your Stuff 

Parents will want details about camp. Do you have a fundraising plan? Do
you know what their child will need to pack? Do you know how to describe a typical day at camp, or the sleeping and bathroom situations?

Predict Concerns, Prepare Answers

Last week, I called a dad to ask if his son could come to camp. He told me
that he couldn’t trust his son to be away from home and needed to keep him on lockdown this summer. I promised him that his son, other than using the
bathroom, would almost always be with a leader. I explained our value of
leader-centered camping: we’re not just “chaperones” letting kids roam around, but “adult friends” seizing every opportunity to share life with our friends.

Cast Vision

Describe your hopes for the trip and for their child. Tell them about your
own experience and what influenced you in becoming a leader. Speak to the ways you have seen camp impact kids in the past and the potential you see in their child.

Know When To Stop Pushing

Getting their kid to camp is not worth hurting your relationship with them.
We’re in these relationships for the long haul, not just for a week of camp.
Respect them enough to allow them to make the decision. After all, they are the parent, we are not. Here’s one of the most honest posts I’ve ever written on this blog and it speaks more to this issue: “The Danger of Preying.” And another on “Crossing the Line.”

Bottom line, build relationships with BOTH teenagers and parents.

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